When something doesn't go well, we may bundle it into "it's my fault." But the reasons for failure are rarely only one.
Preparation time. Where the tools were. How an explanation was heard. Body condition. Surrounding noise. Many things stack to change the result.
Look at Causes Separately
If you forgot homework, it might not be only a motivation issue. Maybe the place isn't decided, maybe there's no time to recheck announcements, maybe you were tired the day before.
Splitting causes lets you stop at "blame yourself" and find places that can be changed. Not to push blame onto others, but to avoid getting stuck the same way next time.
You Don't Have to Fix Everything
Even if you find many reasons, you don't have to fix all of them at once. Just choose one to change, and the next result will shift a little.
People who don't pin failure on one cause can calmly think of the next plan.
Pick a recent failure and write three reasons split apart.
At Digital Kodomo BASE, we treat failure not as material for blame but as material for finding causes. The power to look at things separately supports recovery.