On a day of failure, you may say harsh words to yourself in your heart. "Why can't I do this?" "I'm hopeless." That kind of day.
But if you imagined saying those words to a friend, you might notice they're a bit too strong.
Words to Yourself Have Power Too
Words have power not only when aimed at others, but also when aimed at yourself. If you say harsh words many times, the energy you need to act next time decreases.
What the failed self needs isn't pampering. It's choosing words that calm you and help you move forward. Words that find what to fix are more useful than harsh ones.
How Would You Say It to a Friend?
If a friend made the same mistake, you'd probably say "let's just fix this part" or "rest today, think tomorrow," not "everything is bad." Try using those same words on yourself.
When you can give yourself kind words, the power to look at failure also returns.
When you start blaming yourself, swap the words for those you'd say to a friend.
At Digital Kodomo BASE, we value not only the power to fix failure, but also the words that protect yourself. Words that aren't too harsh hold up the next step.